Shift #1 – Your Healing Will Be Up to You, Not Up to Your Father

This is probably the most profound shift I’ve had to make to bring about my healing.

I spent decades trying to get my father to change his view of me, perpetually knocking on a door that was not going to open – not by simply knocking.

After decades of anger and frustration, I finally understood that I must accept full responsibility for my experience of reality. I understood that my healing was going to be up to me.

And I went on a journey of self-discovery, self-help, therapy, using whatever modalities came my way to understand my pain and to begin healing it.

That was when breakthroughs began to take place. So, this is a big one – accepting responsibility for your own healing.

Shift #2 – Gain a Thorough Understanding of the Father Wound

Sadly, too many men do not even realise they have a Father Wound. So, they keep fighting multiple windmills throughout their lives while the real demon remains in the deep recesses of their subconscious.

So, it is necessary to become educated on the Father Wound, what it is, its causes, consequences, and how to recognise it.

If you don’t know much about it, you won’t know what to look for. On the other hand, the more you learn about it, the more you realise how it may have been affecting you throughout your entire life.

Shift #3 – Acceptance and Forgiveness

Yes, this is a tough one. But it is also a crucial one.

The biggest obstacle to transformation is non-acceptance. To fail to accept your father the way he is means to keep wanting him to change. To change his behaviour, his attitude, his words, his expectations of you, and so on.

But to expect or demand someone to change – and to have a need and a desire for them to change – is to play a losing game.

You probably already know this from experience. You expect someone to change, they don’t, and the frustration never ends.

Acceptance can also open the door to Forgiveness, which is another crucial step in healing the Father Wound.

Yes, you will have to forgive your father for what he has done or not done to or for you.

You will also need to forgive yourself because otherwise you’ll continue to carry guilt, which is a massively destructive emotion.

If this sounds like a lot of hard work, yes, it can be. This is why you may not want to do this work alone.

Shift #4 – Learn How to Talk to Your Father

If you have a Father Wound, then your communication with your father is one of the most difficult things in your life, period, whether he is dead or alive. It may even be the number one difficult thing that drives you up the wall every time.

When you can’t talk to your father without getting angry and frustrated, perhaps even out-of-control enraged, you are wasting tons of energy for nothing. In fact, the negative emotions that emerge harm you.

This is one of the ways the Father Wound affects your relationships with others – it charges you with negative energy that you must release. And now your loved ones, your team, and everyone else coming in contact with you will receive what you emanate – anger, sadness, guilt, and so on.

This is why learning how to talk to your father effectively, whether he is dead or alive, is another crucial shift you must make in dissolving the wound.

You can totally transform the way you communicate with your father so that you don’t have to charge yourself with toxic emotions. Instead, you can have effective, to-the-point, enjoyable, and meaningful interactions with your father.

And that new level of communication becomes like a yellow brick road to dissolving the Father Wound.

This is going to be one of the hardest things to do. But you can do it. I did it. I’ve taught other men to do it. So, I know you can; you just need to learn how.

And this brings me to the final shift…

Shift #5 - Don’t Go It Alone

Yes, don’t try to do this by yourself. It has taken me decades to heal my Father Wound, and the road is rocky and winding if you try to do this by yourself.

You can learn a tip here, or even have a breakthrough there. But without a comprehensive and holistic approach that involves all the Five Shifts I mention here, it can take you way too long, and be a difficult journey.

In the meantime, your relationships, your finances, and your health will keep suffering because of the wound.

To attempt to heal the Father Wound, you absolutely need to make all the shifts, and a piecemeal approach just won’t do.

This is why I am offering this FREE session for you and me to get on the phone and discuss your personal situation and how you can break free from the cycle of destructive emotions and behaviours that have been limiting you – hey – since you were just a kid.

So, if you think you are ready to begin healing, then go ahead and…